tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62448943274163208252024-02-19T08:06:32.819-08:00Music & ManlinessI'm a musician writing about manliness. This blog is dedicated to writing music inspired by the values of real (good) men.
Each week I will identify a value, characteristic, or virtue that I believe lies within a true MAN. There are tons of men out there acting like boys and tons of pop songs out there encouraging them to keep acting like boys. So here's to good men, good music, and good values. Let the creativity and masculinity begin.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-58174074524398429402014-12-16T11:49:00.004-08:002014-12-16T11:49:50.742-08:00Manly FriendshipHi everyone,<br />
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I've been wanting to do a post about friendship for quite some time now. This post isn't just about friendship but manly friendships and their importance. I was sitting down a few nights ago in my apartment discussing the importance of manly friendships with 6 other guys that I go to school with. We all stayed up talking late into the night.<br />
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It wasn't what most would assume to be a "typical" conversation between a bunch of college guys, but I think it should start being a more typical conversation among young men today.<br />
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<b>Manly friends = guys that you're friends with that encourage moral flourishing.</b> </div>
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<span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;">Accountability:</span> having guy friends that are focused on common goals is very important. Getting comfortable in life doesn't call for relaxing goals or morals. Manly men should always aim to be the best brothers, husbands, fathers, and sons they can be and having other guys around who are also dedicated to those goals is important in maintaining them.<br />
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<span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;">Loyalty:</span> An Art of Manliness article made me realize that I am still best friends with some of the guys I met in elementary school. We have changed growing up but we still hang out whenever we are both home. Manly friendships create a loyalty that is demonstrated through a bond that does not seem to break even with a lack of communication. Manly friends are loyal to one another, always there to help each other in times of need, and are loyal to each others families.<br />
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<span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;">Guy Stuff:</span> every guy needs to hang with the fellas once in a while. Whether that means having a guys poker night, working out with a buddy, or doing an explorative outdoor activity - all men need other men to do manly things with. Guys enjoy testing their strength while competing with a friend. So doing guy stuff can be stress-relieving, health building, and just all around fun. <br />
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The best manly friendships are found in the few close friendships rather than a ton of "okay" friendships. </div>
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-13094315071960169542014-11-30T13:13:00.003-08:002014-11-30T13:13:29.270-08:00Review of Mansfield's Book of Manly Men<div>
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I hope you enjoyed my action plan from the previous <a href="http://manvaluesmusic.blogspot.com/2014/11/11-point-plan-of-thanks-gif-ing.html" target="_blank">Thanks-GIF-ing post</a>. Unfortunately I didn't capture many pictures of the day as I was more focused on spending quality time with the family!<div>
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In other news, go check out the book review I wrote for <a href="http://www.readingteen.net/" target="_blank">Reading Teen</a>! It's a blog that writes reviews on young adult literature. I wrote a review for them on Mansfield's Book of Manly Men. It's a book that does a great job defining manly virtues and manly maxims.</div>
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Check out my review here: </div>
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Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I am especially in the mood to share fun note. Every thanksgiving people take to the dinner tables and pronounce how thankful they are for food, family, and friends. For some people this is the only time they ever say aloud what they are thankful for. I'll have a more serious post soon on the importance of thankfulness with manliness.<br />
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But to get into the Thanksgiving spirit, I've laid out my action plan for Thanksgiving tomorrow! </div>
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1. Wake up nice and early at 6am to depart upstate New York with the parents in order to travel to Grandmas house.</div>
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2. Arrive at g-ma's house around 12pm assuming all goes as planned.</div>
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3. Re-unite with family with a few awkward hugs.</div>
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4. Annoy family members by bickering with my older brother until food is ready.</div>
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5. Sit down at the table and pray over the food before digging in.</div>
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7. Allow food overload and attempt telling g-ma that you've had enough.</div>
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9. Move to the couch, Put on a football game, and allow food coma if necessary.</div>
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This is the action plan for tomorrow's Thanksgiving, brought to you by GIFs. Stay tuned to see how it actually goes down. I'll try to document with as many pictures as possible.</div>
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More posts actually pertaining to music and manliness to come! Happy Thanksgiving!</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-40322284307768755182014-11-25T08:56:00.001-08:002014-11-25T08:56:33.628-08:00The Cardinal VirtuesOver the past several weeks I have posted about the four Cardinal Virtues from classical antiquity. I have offered practical ways to go about practicing each virtue and I have written songs inspired by some of these virtues (more songs to come).<br />
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Easy access to each of the four Cardinal Virtues I discussed:</div>
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Next I'll be taking a closer look on other manly characteristics, values, and virtues that I believe a real man should have. I will finish writing the songs for the above virtues and then post demos of each on as soon as I am done being sick. Unfortunately, I have been quite ill for some time which has prevented my singing. The goal is to "keep on keepin' on." Stay tuned!</div>
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This post is dedicated to the manly virtue of JUSTICE.</h4>
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This is the fourth & final post in the series of <i>Cardinal Virtues</i> that I've been working on these past few weeks. Your typical Google search will define justice as "the quality of being just; righteousness, equitableness, or moral rightness" (dictionary.reference.com). This definition may make sense but it can be difficult to gauge what justice <i>truly</i> is and how you should go about being just.<br />
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Many see justice to be synonymous with vengeance or revenge (which basically mean inflicting harm on someone after they have inflicted harm on you). Justice is definitely not vengeance.<br />
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Justice is basically the upholding of standards, laws, and morals- Those who uphold them will benefit and those who do not will suffer the consequences (but is this actually justice?). While this is a very broadly based definition it's important to reflect on justice on a daily basis. Here's a few practical ways a real man can act just and promote justice!<br />
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These simple and somewhat obvious points may not help in truly defining justice for day to day life but this post is mainly meant to get you thinking about what justice is and how it applies to your life.<br />
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For further reading on the topic of justice, check out this article on Art of Manliness that discusses justice. It's a good one.<br />
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Temperance: <a href="http://manvaluesmusic.blogspot.com/2014/10/temperance-just-wait.html">http://manvaluesmusic.blogspot.com/2014/10/temperance-just-wait.html</a></div>
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The manly virtue this week is <i>wisdom</i>. This is number three (of four posts) in the series of the cardinal virtues. For access to the others check out the links at the bottom. </h2>
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Here's a great moment of Allen imparting some wisdom to his sons in one of the best TV shows of all time: <i>Boy Meets World</i>.</div>
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Here's 5 ways manly men can consider and apply <b>WISDOM</b>:<br />
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<span style="color: #3d85c6; font-size: large;">1. Knowledge isn't wisdom.</span> Many people today think that the more definitions and facts they can memorize from a textbook, the wiser they are. All of us college students experience an "all high and mighty" attitude when we come home from our sophomore year of college and aim to impress our peers and family with all the knowledge that we've gained. At least I had this attitude anyway. This is not wisdom. Knowing things is different from discerning what's right and wrong. To be wise is to be able to pick out what you <b>should</b> <i>and</i> <b>should not</b> do in order for you, and those around you, to flourish. Knowledge is good, but being a pompous "know it all" isn't.<br />
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<b>Temperance:</b><br />
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Song about wisdom coming soon!</div>
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Thanks for reading.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-43453949270919637122014-11-12T08:57:00.000-08:002014-11-12T09:13:09.183-08:00Featured artist on BTAC<span style="background-color: #444444; font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Hi everyone,</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I encourage you to check out a blog I was featured in. It's called <b>Better Than a Cupcake. </b>Here is how founder, <a href="http://www.betterthanacupcake.com/sydney-bellows.html" target="_blank">Sydney Bellows</a>, describes her company blog:</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">"<a href="http://www.betterthanacupcake.com/about.html" style="font-size: large; text-decoration: none;" title="">Better Than A Cupcake</a><span style="font-size: medium;"> </span><span style="font-size: medium;">is catered to the fashionably chic, altruistic, go-getter kind of gal. BTAC provides weekly posts featuring news on up-and-coming artists, charitable brands, D.I.Y. How-To's and fashion book reviews from the perspective of college writers across the nation!"</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Here's some irony for you: I'm a manliness blog writer </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">encouraging you to go and check out a blog </span><i style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">"catered to the fashionably chic, altruistic, go-getter kind of gal."</i><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> Don't let this stop you from checking out a growing blog with a following. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: medium;">I did this interview about a week before beginning Music & Manliness. <b>I talked about foundational values in the field of music</b> and it just got published so go check it out!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: medium;"><a href="http://www.betterthanacupcake.com/blog/jake-canull-musician">http://www.betterthanacupcake.com/blog/jake-canull-musician</a></span></span><br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-49647805991124174172014-11-12T08:35:00.000-08:002014-11-12T08:35:29.151-08:00"Courage" - Here's a song I wrote about courage.Here's a song I wrote inspired by the manly virtue of courage.<br />
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by Jake Canull</div>
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<b>Verse 1:</b><br />
Well I'm afraid of falling<br />
I'm not afraid to die<br />
And I'm afraid of losing<br />
In this game of life<br />
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I've been afraid of loving<br />
Cuz there's so much to lose<br />
I'm afraid of getting left behind<br />
What if I'm not what you choose?<br />
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Well it's okay </div>
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to make mistakes</div>
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as long as you can set them right<br />
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And it's okay </div>
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to be afraid</div>
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as long as you're willing fight</div>
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that's courage</div>
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<b>Verse 2:</b><br />
I'm not afraid of living<br />
Cause I know I will survive<br />
I'm just afraid to mess up<br />
and live a lonely life<br />
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But I will never give up<br />
In aiming for what's right<br />
I'm just going to stand up<br />
And move through the fear in sight</div>
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Well it's okay </div>
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to make mistakes</div>
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as long as you can set them right<br />
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Well it's okay </div>
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to be afraid</div>
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as long as you're willing fight</div>
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that's courage</div>
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<b>Bridge:</b><br />
I need some time to breath<br />
I feel weak in my knees<br />
And all we, all we want<br />
Is bravery<br />
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Well it's okay </div>
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to make mistakes</div>
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as long as you can set them right<br />
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And it's okay </div>
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to be afraid</div>
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as long as you're willing fight</div>
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that's courage<br />
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Demo recordings coming soon!</div>
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-Jake </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-38171527087792520492014-11-07T10:18:00.001-08:002014-11-12T08:36:45.377-08:00Courage: Music & ManlinessIt's Friday, so thank God for that. My apologies for not posting a demo recording of "Just Wait" (the song I wrote last week). I've been dealing with infected tonsils, which has limited whatever ability I have to sing. Anyway, that's coming soon, along with whatever song I write inspired by courage.<br />
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This week's manly virtue is courage. Courage is also one of the four cardinal virtues of classical antiquity, and one of my favorite virtues of a real man. Courage is defined as the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc. without fear; bravery (dictionary.reference.com).<br />
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Somewhat opposing the above definition, Mark Twain (Samuel Clemens) said, "courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." I tend to agree more with Twain's assessment of courage than that of dictionary.reference.com. Human beings are all afraid of something at some point. So yes, real men have fear. The difference between a real man and a boy (in this case "boy" refers to a grown-man-coward) is how they react to that fear, whether it be courageously or not. Courage is facing your fears. It's saying what someone needs to hear, rather than what they want to hear. It's having the guts to practice whatever good you preach. Courage is mandatory in order to be a real man.<br />
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Five ways a real man can employ courage in everyday life:</span></h2>
<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">1. Have the courage to be a faithful.</span></b> To be faithful is to be loyal. Whether it is being a faithful friend or being a faithful husband, father, son, or brother, it takes courage to repeatedly have someone's back through thick and thin. It takes courage to deny the temptations that disgrace faithfulness and loyalty. Be faithful to those that truly sharpen and care for you.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: #6fa8dc;">2. </span><span style="color: #6fa8dc;">Have the courage to call someone out when mistreating another.</span></b></span><span style="color: #3d85c6;"> </span>A real man does not stand by and simply watch when someone is being mistreated physically or verbally. He stands up for those unable or unwilling to stand up for themselves even if he may compromise his own social status. He does not do it for praise but instead does it because he sees the value in protecting the goods of human life.<br />
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<b style="color: #6fa8dc;"><span style="font-size: large;">3. Have the courage to be vulnerable.</span></b> Believe or it or not, a real man allows himself to be vulnerable. This doesn't mean constantly discussing how he "feels" about every single little thing, or taking those around him on some sort of emotional roller coaster. A real man is vulnerable by admitting his weakness, failures, and mistakes. He is not hesitant to accept the advice of those wiser than him and share his struggles with those who sharpen him. He knows that he's not defined by his mistakes, but instead what he does to make them right.<br />
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<span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;"><b>4. Have the courage to guard your senses.</b></span> A real man is careful in his watching, listening, and speaking. He understands that in order to be a good man he must have the courage to disagree with and avoid watching things in order to keep his judgement sound and mind healthy. A real man has the courage to listen to those he agrees with, and those he disagrees with. A real man need not be perfect in speech to understand that the words he uses truly effect those around him. He aims to be a good role model, and conveys so, first through his actions and then through his words.<br />
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<span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large; font-weight: bold;">5. Have the courage to be dependable.</span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span>A real man highly prioritizes dependability. It takes bravery to put himself in a position where he is depended upon. He takes seriously the roles and responsibilities that he accepts and can always be counted on, even under pressure. It takes courage to initially step up, and it takes a certain kind of courage to follow through. <br />
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C.S. Lewis said, "Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point." Virtues in themselves will not hold without the bravery to uphold them when facing adversity.<br />
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The courage of a real man is not something he is born with, but instead it is something he develops.<br />
Art of Manliness (www.artofmanliness.com) has some great posts on manly courage, one of my favorites is listed below. I recommend you go check it out for more insight on manly courage:<br />
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<a href="http://www.artofmanliness.com/2009/02/08/developing-manly-courage/">http://www.artofmanliness.com/2009/02/08/developing-manly-courage/</a><br />
<span style="color: #6fa8dc;">This article discusses the different types of courage that exist (physical, intellectual, and moral) and how to develop each of them.</span><br />
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I hope this can get men thinking about what it means to be a man with courage so that when the time comes to do something courageous, you will be prepared.<br />
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It's taking me a little longer to develop the right song for this one.<br />
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-Jake<br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-5073626916076330732014-11-01T12:15:00.000-07:002014-12-16T12:15:12.442-08:00"Just Wait" - Song about temperance<div style="text-align: center;">
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Here's the song I wrote inspired by temperance!</div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Just Wait</span></b></div>
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by Jake Canull</div>
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Tell me, tell me who do you want to be</div>
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Thats what an old man once said to me</div>
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I told him, told him I wanna be the best</div>
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I want take 1st place, you recognize my face from all the rest</div>
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Then he asked how I measured success</div>
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I said only money can buy the best</div>
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And then I asked him what made him happy</div>
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He pulled out a picture of his family</div>
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He said he used to be just like me</div>
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Moving faster than he could see</div>
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So then he asked me one more time</div>
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Who do you truly want to be?</div>
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Chorus:</div>
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I said I just want to want to say</div>
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Words I can live by every day</div>
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To be the man I said I'd be</div>
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I won't act in haste, I'll break it down with patience</div>
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And just wait</div>
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He said he made a lot of mistakes</div>
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Most of them from acting in haste</div>
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He knew that I, that I would relate</div>
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He said slow down, patience makes a good man great</div>
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He told me take a step back from life</div>
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Something to make you realize</div>
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Impulsiveness and wealth in pride</div>
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Will do nothing but blind your eyes</div>
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He said he used to be just like me</div>
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Moving faster than he could see</div>
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So then he asked me one more time</div>
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Who do you truly want to be?</div>
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Chorus:</div>
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I just want to want to say</div>
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Words I can live by every day</div>
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To be the man I said I'd be</div>
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I won't act in haste, I'll break it down with patience</div>
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And just wait</div>
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Bridge:</div>
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What does it mean to wait?</div>
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Why must it take so long?</div>
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Why must I be so weak?</div>
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You say my will is strong</div>
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How come I don't feel strong?</div>
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Why can things go so wrong?</div>
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Until faith comes along</div>
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To remind me </div>
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To remind me </div>
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To remind me</div>
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Chorus:</div>
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I just want to want to say</div>
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Words I can live by every day</div>
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To be the man I said I'd be</div>
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I won't act in haste, I'll break it down with patience</div>
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And just wait</div>
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Best & thanks for reading,<br />
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-Jake<br />
<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17278335220173337439noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6244894327416320825.post-38366864097504402652014-10-31T10:24:00.003-07:002014-12-16T12:12:44.747-08:00Temperance: Music & ManlinessHi all,<br />
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<i>Just a heads up, I do not intend for these posts to be condescending to those that have not lived up to the ideals listed. For I myself know that I have not lived up to these ideals in the past, and although I aim to, I may still fail to fully live up to them in the present. This blog is my own attempt to consider and understand the values of a real man. I can only <u>hope</u> to live up to these principles and virtues and I simply ask that you join me in this journey of figuring out what it means to be a real man. </i><br />
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This week's virtue of manliness is <b>temperance</b>. Here are some of my thoughts on temperance, manliness, and music. Below is also a song I wrote last night (10/30/2014) inspired by the concept of temperance called "Just Wait."<br />
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Temperance is well known as one of the four cardinal virtues of classical antiquity and is commonly defined as self-restraint, moderation, or self-control (at least by dictionary.reference.com). A common issue among many men today is the lack of temperance, or self-control, that aids in properly balancing the soul between the appetites, spiritedness, and the mind (eros, thumos, and nous).<br />
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With today's high speed internet and technology the temperance of a man is challenged more than ever before. Pornography plagues the lives of men everywhere, giving them unrealistic views and expectations of sex in their own marriages. There is a lot of music today that depicts "real men" as being guys who can get away with lies, hook up with as many girls as possible, or who can make the most money to reach the highest surface level status.<br />
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Self-control and patience matter. They matter through the things that you do, but they matter just as much through things that you <i>don't</i> do. They're important for things as little as waiting in a grocery line, all the way to being a good husband or father. It's important to control little frustrations and impulses for the betterment of those around you. When getting to a point of real frustration or anger a real man steps back from the situation and doesn't explode. A real man chooses to employ temperance so much that it eventually becomes second nature. Being a real man is about making the choice to stay committed to all that you said you would stay committed to. It's about attaining the awareness to restrain yourself from the actions, feelings, and responses in life that will not make you a better father, brother, son, husband, or better man in general. <br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: x-large;">6 ways a true man employs temperance:</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">1. A good attitude</span> </b>- A man of moderation aims to balance his wants, his needs, and everything in between. He is slow to anger and not afraid to smile and even encourage laughter. A real man knows that the best way to begin any task, labor, or trial is with a good attitude.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">2. Learn from mistakes</span></b> - A man of self-restraint learns from other peoples mistakes, and when he <i>does</i> make his own mistakes (which he inevitably will), he does everything in his power to restrain himself from making them again.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: #6fa8dc;">3. Balance work & play</span></b> </span>- With limited time on this earthly world, a real man understands that working with discipline and appropriately tending to his craft is very important, but it's not everything. A real man can step away from the stresses of his work life and enjoy the free time he has with family and friends. He sees free/fun time as necessary and aims to be 100% present with those he is with when he is with them. <br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">4. Be a good husband or boyfriend (relationships)</span></b> - A real man pursues the woman he is in a relationship with, always. He is not overbearing and he is not possessive. He treats her with care and makes her a priority but does not not put her on a pedestal. He understands she is an individual just as he is, and knows that their relationship is a constant choice to be committed one another - not the center of the entire universe. Commitment eventually becomes second nature as well for a real man.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">5. Health in food and drink</span></b> - A real man knows how to eat but he does not over-indulge in unhealthy food and drink. He aims to maintain a heathy body (as the protector of his soul) and understands that personal health and fitness are necessary to living a long and productive life. He maintains a healthy body, not just for his own selfishness but for his family and loved ones to depend on as well. He is one who provides for and protects his family. A real man does not over-indulge in drinking alcohol either, for he knows the temporary buzz is just that: temporary, for it will not lead to anything worthwhile.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #6fa8dc; font-size: large;">6. Reflection</span></b> - A real man reflects on his own life and decisions often. He re-focusses himself on his own core values and identifies what he specifically needs temperance in. He does not dwell on the past but restrains himself from making poor decisions twice. He practices patience often and understands that there is an actual purpose in waiting for the greater things in life.<br />
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This real man of temperance may just be a list of ideals... We are all broken and we men will always act like boys at times. The important thing is to consider temperance in your own life. Apply it in your own life and aim to be a REAL MAN of healthy moderation. If nothing else, I hope this can get men at least thinking about and discussing what it means to be a real man and what comes along with that.<br />
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Next is the first attempt at the song I wrote while thinking about the virtue of temperance. Check it out.<br />
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- Jake<br />
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